Well, this is probably an unexpected topic. You’d think I’d be encouraging you on to believing such a topic. I find more people who push this are trying to sell you a set of generic videos about Twin Flames, or want you to buy into a course or subscription on twin flames.

• Of course if someone is trying to sell you a course on the topic, you have to believe the topic is useful and applicable to your life. I get kind of angry at these kinds of videos on YouTube, as they are always saying, ‘the person is coming too you,’ or ‘you are growing in separation,’ often posting both story versions the same day, so viewers will self select to watch the video that makes them feel better, even if it means feeling better through a false premise.
• That, or they are drunk in love in a toxic relationship, and everything relationship they see is a twin flame, to justify their thinking.

What is a Twin Flame?

A twin flame, is another person on the same energy frequency as you, and you are bound to always match their energy. Metaphorically speaking, it would be someone like a “soul mate” but actually more intense. (Even though a soul “mate” (friend) can be someone in your soul family, I refer to the Hollywood version of a “soul mate” in this phrasing.) Because of the energetic match and synch’ing, people will often describe their person as being them or being irrevocably connected to them. Technically, you can’t cut cords with a twin flame, as you are always connected, always being in energetic synch.

Why isn’t my person my Twin Flame?

Spiritually oriented people will often justify bad behaviour from a romantic person because they think the person is their “twin.”

It’s funny how they don’t take advantage of the whole twin flame dynamic. IF they were your twin flame, the best thing you can do when they are acting a fool is leave. Leave them. Don’t accept bad behaviour. IF they were truly a twin, they would shape up, act better, and go chasing after you. They could potentially jump straight to the chasing, but if you deny them until they shape up, they will. Once you are not feeding them energy, they will come looking for it anyway they can get it. You become the runner and they become the chaser. IF they were your twin flame, you could sleep easy at night knowing they would eventually come around. Go ahead and do a cord cutting action, whether it is in your mind, or you cut a piece of paper, or whatever you do; IF they are just a lesson learned, then you’ll simply leave them in the dust. IF they are a “twin flame,” they’d eventually come back.

What I think the other person is more likely is a toxic relationship. Some people might use the phrase “karmic relationship,” kind of assigning a negative label. I like to think there can be some karmic-contract relationship that aren’t all that negative myself. Either way you want to phrase it, it is more likely an opportunity your own soul offered to you to define yourself and where you want to be. Do you accept toxic relationships? Is that something you want in your life to define you? Will you say, “hey, I have had my fill of this course, I’d like something else?” Just like a plate of cookies, at some point, you will just not want anymore after so many.

Even if this bad person is your twin, you don’t owe them anything. If they are not being loyal to you. If they aren’t even living in the same state as you, why would you waste time on them? There are options in your own city, willing and able to give you the love that you want. Why pine over someone is is unavailable and uncommitted to you? Why waste time on someone that perhaps abuses you? They are not worth your time. If they cared about you, they would say so with their words AND actions; they would be near you now. Even if they are a twin flame, if they don’t treat you right, you don’t have to reward them. You don’t have to love them (certainly not more than you love yourself).

Don’t justify bad behaviour with over-hyped spiritual terms. You are fooling yourself and wasting your time. You might even be passing on this spiritual justification to your friends to justify their bad relationships too. If you don’t care about yourself enough, you might care more about how you are influencing you friend, child, or siblings to model their life after yours.

Twin flames are supposed to be really rare. Your odds of winning the lottery or getting struck by lightening are better. In all likelihood, you are blind in love/lust and this is simply a romantic phrase that you are clinging too.

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